Finnegan the Dog?

It's recently come to my attention that Finnegan was a famous dog on the Canadian television show Mr. Dressup. I have no qualms about choosing a name that was once a beloved pet's name (convincing my husband that this is perfectly acceptable is another matter!). I've known lots of pooches and pusses and people that have successfully shared names such as Molly and Ellie and Zoe. But, I have to wonder, is naming a child Finnegan akin to naming a child Snoopy? 

For all the Canadians reading this blog, do tell me, what on earth was the Tickle Trunk?  

Waiting to Wait

I may have spoken too soon when I said "we're officially in line" for a referral. Apparently, more translations need to be made and more papers need to be shuffled before our dossier is officially submitted to the region of Kaliningrad. Shouldn't be long - within the next week or two. So, we're waiting to wait for now. We'll keep you posted.

The Name Game Continued

One good thing about having to wait for a referral is having more time to decide on a name. Top names this week (for me anyway) are...

and...

Nikolai is a great Russian name. According to one source, it's also Polish and Estonian...bringing us back to the Baltics yet again. We could easily shorten Nikolai to Nick - or Niko, which I love. Either would be easy to pronounce in any culture. (The Russian nickname for Nikolai is Kolya, another great name, but not one that would come naturally to us.) Don't ask me why I like the name Finnegan, but I do. Must be the Irish in me! And isn't the name Finn oh-so-cool? But, as you can see, we'd have to buy another set of fridge magnets - or at the very least an extra 'N' - so little Finn could learn to spell his whole name properly. For those of you with nothing better to do, take the poll off to the right! 

Reaccreditation!

It's official! FTIA was reaccredited on Friday, May 23. Wonder if the birthday boy wished for this? 

FTIA will now be working in Kaliningrad, Ekaterinburg, Rostov, Ufa, and Kemerovo (due to re-open in June). We told our coordinator that we are interested in continuing with Kaliningrad, even though the waiting time there may be longer (3-12 months). Estimated wait times for the other regions are all listed as 2-5 months after submitting your dossier. We've decided to give it some time in K'grad, to see how quickly things are moving. I suppose we could always request to change regions if, after some time, we don't feel we're getting any closer to receiving a referral. But for now, we're just happy to know that FTIA has been reaccredited and that we're officially in line! 

Reaccreditation?

We received an email from FTIA this morning saying that they have been invited to the Ministry of Education in Moscow for Friday. They expect to be given their reaccreditation certificate at this meeting. If they do receive their reaccreditation, we will be able to move forward with Kaliningrad without having to make the extra trip to submit our dossier. We are still interested in K'grad and are hoping that the estimated timeframe for a referral will be at the shorter end of the 3-12 month range. Fingers crossed! 

Hopefully, this little bump in the road is behind us. I want to state that my frustration was not directed at FTIA - they have been nothing but professional and helpful and patient with us. Nor was my frustration aimed at the Russian government. I was simply feeling anxious...antsy...eager for things to keep moving. However, we were told at the very beginning of this process that things don't always go as planned - that flexibility was key - and I'm trying to remind myself of that.

The Moody Blues and A Bluesy Mood

Let's start with the bluesy mood. We got an email from FTIA this morning saying that their representative in Russia suggests that we wait until FITA is reaccredited before we submit our dossier to Kaliningrad. They've also changed their estimated timeframe for a referral from 3-4 months to 3-12 months. This is not what they told FTIA a few weeks ago, and we aren't sure what to make of all this. Is this a sign that the process isn't running smoothly in K'grad and that we should choose another region? Or is this a backlash from the situation in Kemerovo, now affecting all other regions in Russia? It's hard to know what to think. We know that FTIA is due to be reaccredited 'any day' now, but we've been hearing that since we applied in January. We haven't been too worried about them not having their reaccreditation since they've been able to work independently in a few regions. But now that one of those regions has closed, and another keeps changing its requirements, we're wondering if we should be worried. FTIA is going to contact their representative again to see if we can still travel to K'grad to submit our dossier in person, and to try to get a better estimate on the referral timeframe.

We do have other options - we think. Apparently the region of Ekaterinburg is still accepting dossiers from FITA. However, there's something about a required medical evaluation by eight specialists that has everyone concerned about this region. I'm still a bit unclear as to why everyone is concerned. I think it has to do with where the evaluations must take place. Apparently, if you're evaluated in Russia, it's a mere formality and happens all at once. However, I think I've heard that E'burg requires this evaluation to be done ahead of time (in your home country) and people are having a hard time finding - and paying for - all eight specialists. We'll have to ask about this region and decide if it's a better option for us. I'll be sad to let go of K'grad, I think.

As for The Moody Blues... You know how a random song pops into your head for no apparent reason and stays there all day, driving you nuts? Today - and I apologize outright for the warm and fuzzy moment here (I can already see Jon rolling his eyes at me - and he's in Bangkok!) - the song was "I know you're out there somewhere...somewhere you can hear my voice...I know I'll find you somehow..." And it's just occurred to me why that was the song of the day. He's out there somewhere, our little guy. And we'll find him.

Lots o' Loot

This kid has been showered with gifts this week. First off, Tom and Margaret (Jon's parents) sent the book, Make Way for Ducklings, as a 'while we wait' gift. I love this book...and as I told Margaret, it's never too soon to start a kid appreciating birds! (Thanks, T&M!) Then Todd and Kirsten loaded us up with baby/toddler clothes. We took everything that could be considered unisex and even some girl stuff - just in case. If we don't need it this time around, there's always next time. For those of you who don't know Kirsten - she is a kids' clothes shopper extraordinaire! Their girls are always dressed in the brightest of colors, the fuzziest of fleece, and the sweetest of hats. They were more than generous with their old baby loot. (Thanks, T&K!) And today, Jon and I went to the school's Sayonara Sale - an annual yard sale where all the departing teachers and families sell their stuff at bargain prices. We hit the jackpot! There were tons of toys and all kinds of clothes. We couldn't resist...

   

The Name Game

We've been told we have to have a name picked out and ready for our first trip to Russia - what will now be our second trip. We're finding this decision harder to make than the decision to adopt one or two kids. (We decided on one, by the way, between 8-15 months.) We obviously want to choose a name we both like - no easy task - and we'd like to honor our child's Russian heritage. We also hope to use the name he's already been given, possibly as a middle name. I like the idea of giving him a first name that is Russian and that crosses cultures easily. Jon just wants a name 'that isn't weird' or hard to say. Here's a couple that we've been using to refer to this future Schatzky, but not names we're likely to choose...

Yes, we already have fridge magnets. No bottles, no sippy cups, no diapers... Not to mention no kid. No, we have nothing essential like that. But we do have fridge magnets!

I-171H Received!

We're feeling lucky today! We had the day off school, as the kick off to Golden Week, and we were thinking what a great day it would be to go to the US Consulate to get some documents notarized (sad that 'great day' and 'notarized' are now in the same sentence when we speak) should anything important like a letter from the US immigration office arrive in the mail. And guess what turned up in our mailbox today? Yes, our I-171H from Hong Kong! We got the call from the school receptionist around noon, and we were on a train to Osaka shortly thereafter to get two copies of this document notarized. The other sad sentence of the day was made by the Consul when he asked, "Only two documents this time?" Yes, only two. The last two. So, that's ALL the paperwork! For NOW, anyway.

Update

Our dossier was sent to Russia yesterday. We were hoping to have it in Russia and already translated by May 1 - before the two week stretch of holidays - but we feel good about the fact that at least it's on its way. Now that our dossier is submitted we need to do the following:

• look into travel arrangements (flights, visas, etc.)
• contact an IA (international adoption) doctor
• choose a name for our child

There's not too much we can do about the travel arrangements, since we don't know our dates yet. But we've heard that some airlines offer 'adoption fares' which would allow us to change our travel plans with little or no fee, if needed. Of course, these fares would be higher than economy tickets, but would offer savings in the long run if our trips are extended while we're in Russia. Definitely worth looking into. I don't think we can get our visas until we have an invitation to travel. As far as the IA doctor, these doctors specialize in international adoptions and help adoptive parents decipher the medical charts from other countries. Apparently, the Russian medical reports can be pretty scary - if you don't know how to read them. Our agency requires us to consult with an IA when we receive a referral. We need to take his/her opinion into consideration when deciding whether or not to accept the referral. We plan to contact a few IA's next week to inquire about their fees and services. As for choosing a name, well, we're not even close!  

We're leaning more and more towards Kaliningrad. I've joined the Yahoo! Kaliningrad Adoption and the FRUA (Families for Russian and Ukrainian Adoption) chat groups in order to learn a bit more about adopting from this region. Again, all I've heard are good things. People keep mentioning how well the kids are cared for, how healthy they are, and how well they've adjusted to their new families. These, of course, are our top concerns and we want to do all we can to ensure that our child has the best possible start in life - all things considered. So, what's an extra flight? We know we shouldn't generalize and assume our experience in Kaliningrad will be as positive as all those we've heard about, but we like the odds. And kids are a gamble no matter how they come to you, right? At least, that's what we hear... Our coordinator in the US has returned from her vacation, and we have a phone call scheduled with her next week to discuss the possibility of Kaliningrad. We were hoping to talk with her yesterday, but she wanted to make sure she had the latest updates before talking with us. So, she's looking into a few more things (we gave her a long list of questions), and we'll touch base next week.

Still waiting for the the I-171H form from Hong Kong.

Kaliningrad Opens

We've just heard that the Kaliningrad region is re-opening for international adoptions. Jon and I are both excited about the possibility of adopting from this part of Russia - mainly because of our time spent in the Baltics. Kaliningrad is on the Baltic Sea and shares a border with Lithuania and Poland. Even though neither of us has ever stepped foot in Kaliningrad, we feel a connection to it somehow. We posted a question to our adoption chat group, asking about people's experience adopting from this part of Russia. We only got a few replies, but they were all positive. One couple gave a glowing review of the orphanage there. They were very impressed with the care, and said that the kids all seemed to be healthy and as happy as can be expected. The only down side to Kaliningrad is that they require three trips instead of two. We would have to travel to submit our dossier in person. We don't understand why they have this requirement or how it might affect the rest of the process. Our agency is looking into this for us.

We received a final copy of our Home Study in the mail today. That means the CIS office in Hong Kong should receive their copy this week. Hopefully, we'll get our I-171H form from them in the next week or so. Things will then slow down for a while. Our coordinator from the US is going on vacation later this week, and apparently Russia shuts down for the first couple weeks of May due to national holidays. 

Home Study Finalized

Our home study has been finalized!  We got the good news today. We're heading to the US Consulate in Osaka on Friday morning to notarize a few more documents, and then we'll mail our dossier to our agency that afternoon.  Finally!  It's taken us three months to compete our dossier. Once this is submitted, the wait for a referral will begin.

Ohanami

The cherry blossoms are out!  Actually, they were out. They're almost gone now - I'm a little behind in my posts...  It's a national pastime here in Japan to go view the cherry blossoms each spring.  They even have a name for cherry blossom viewing: ohanami.  A couple weekends ago, we set out to experience this annual phenomenon - I with the Welbi along a river in the city, and Jon on a bike ride in the mountains.  While we certainly thought the blossoms were beautiful, the true phenomenon was the hundreds (thousands?) of Japanese people on their blue tarps, picnicking with bento boxes, sake, and beer under the trees. It was nice to see so many people enjoying the natural world - even if it was a bit crowded.  Our school also participated in the ohanami festivities by having a staff party out on the Green Belt (a path around Rokko Island) under the blossoms.  The women of Canadian Academy host this party for the men of CA each year, in return for the Valentine's breakfast they host for us.  A rather civilized tradition, I must say.

The Little Mermaid

A few other teachers and I went to see the Queensland Ballet perform The Little Mermaid last night.  It was wonderful!  I can honestly say it was the best ballet I've ever seen - meaning that it's the one I've enjoyed the most.  The scenery and costumes were beautiful and believable and gave the genuine feeling of being under water.  And the way the mermaids danced across the stage - with their feet close together and the flared material waving and swishing back and forth around their feet - it looked as if their 'tails' were propelling them through the water. Another interesting technique they used to help create the impression of swimming was having dancers dressed in black from head to toe hold the mermaids horizontally in the air and carry them across the stage, while the mermaids made swimming and diving motions with their arms.  Since the men in black blended into the underwater world so well, it was incredibly effective.  A stunning performance, indeed!

Before the ballet, I re-read this famous story by Hans Christian Andersen (although, I'm not sure that I'd ever read it before) to remind myself of the plot.  Unfortunately, my knowledge of this classic tale had been Disney-ized.  The original story is quite different from Disney's version.  It's much better, if a bit more graphic - I didn't realize that the Little Mermaid had her tongue cut out by the Sea Witch. Still, it's a wonderful story. I've been reading more of Andersen's stories in the book, The Annotated Hans Christian Andersen, by Maria Tatar. It's a lovely book, one I can't wait to read aloud from with a little someone on my lap... Someday. 

Softball Saturday

I'm helping coach the Middle School girls' softball team this year.  Our season started in mid-March, and we've had a few games since then.  We played a double-header yesterday at Marist Brothers, another international school here in Kobe. We won our first game against Marist, but lost the second to Osaka International. More important than winning or losing, however, was the fact that we were much improved since our first game. The girls made some great plays and are starting to get the hang of the game. It's fun to watch them improve! They're a great bunch of girls, and we all enjoyed the day.  

Adoptions Suspended in Kemerovo

We just heard from our agency that adoptions in the Kemerovo region of Russia have been suspended until further notice. This is one of the regions from which our agency has been placing children, and while we don't think this suspension will delay our adoption, it does affect other families currently in the process with FTIA. It's a horrible story, as it involves the death (killing?) of a child adopted from this region by American/Russian parents. We certainly don't know all the details, but according to one news article online, abuse seems likely.  How incredibly sad.  How can people treat children this way?

Our agency will be posting more news as it comes in from Russia. In the meantime, it's possible that they'll be able to start working in the region of Ekaterinburg, as well as continue placing children from the Ufa region.  

My heart goes out to all the families who just returned from their first trip to Kemerovo and met their children. I hope they'll be able to complete their adoptions and bring their little ones home.

No April Fools!

We woke this morning to an email from Margaret saying that Jon's Latvian police clearance has arrived. Finally! When it didn't turn up last week, we were sure it was going to be another week or two. This last document sets everything else in motion:

1. Megan will be able to finish our home study and submit it to our agency
   
2. Our agency will review our home study and send it to the US Immigration office in Hong Kong 
   
3. The immigration office in Hong Kong will issue our I-171H Advanced Approval form
   
4. We will get our last few documents notarized at the US Consulate in Osaka and submit our dossier (which will include our home study and our I-171H Advanced Approval) to our agency
   
5. Our agency will have our documents apostilled and will send our dossier to Russia for translation 
   
6. We will receive a referral and/or an invitation to travel to meet a child 

Our agency informed us that many Russian officials take vacation during the first two weeks of May since there are a few holidays during that time. We're hoping to get our dossier sent to Russia before May 1, so that it doesn't sit on someone's desk for two weeks!

A Sign?

Reading YA (Young Adult) books is something that I've liked to do ever since I became a teacher and a librarian. The one I picked up most recently - Ruby Holler by Sharon Creech - caught my eye long ago. I love the picture of the cottage in the woods. I love the idea of a cottage in the woods... Judging this book by its cover, I knew this was a book for me! 

I finally picked up Ruby Holler the other day, wondering what glimpse of the idyllic cottage life this book would give me. I found it ironic...coincidental...serendipitous (what's the word I'm looking for?) that the main characters were two orphans - twins in search of a family and a home. And who should take them in? An odd couple in the woods. She - obsessed with finding a certain bird on a deserted island. He - set upon taking his beat up old boat all the way down the river. 'Wouldn't it be great to have some kids along on these adventures?' the couple wondered. 

Is this a sign?

Sumo, Sewing, and Sightseeing

We went to our first sumo tournament last Friday. I wasn't sure what to expect, but I thoroughly enjoyed it. There are many nuances to everything Japanese, including sumo, so I'm sure there were many things I didn't 'get' while watching the matches. But what I saw, I enjoyed. I loved the way the wrestlers would work the crowd with a gesture, the build up before each match, the throwing of salt, the sweeping of the ring, the parading sponsors (including Hello Kitty!), the leg lifts, the tame uproars from the crowd, the flying tatami cushions over an upset... For a peek into the Japanese culture, watch the video above. It's three minutes long. 

I've been busy sewing this week. We've read that it's a good idea to take a 'transition item' to the orphanage on our first visit to meet our child. This should be an item that our child can hold/use/become familiar with after we leave and throughout the two-three months until we return to pick him up. Ideally, this will be an item that our child will bring with him back to our home. Since it will be a familiar item by that time, it's supposed to help with the transition. I say ideally and supposed to because there are no guarantees that we'll ever see this item again, but I think most people have had good luck with the transition items they've taken for their kids. I thought it would be nice to take a quilt - something useful, something warm, something handmade. I also worked on my Peru quilt this week. I've almost finished my Cock-of-the-Rock block. This was my favorite bird in Peru, and I've captured him on fabric! I'm also hoping to finish the I Spy quilt I started long ago with my mom. More photos linked below. 

We've been getting out and about with our friends Todd and Kirsten and their two kids, Riley and Tess. A couple of weeks ago, we went up Mt. Rokko for a picnic, and this last Friday we went to Kyoto for the day. We had a ramen lunch, visited the Gold Temple (Kinkakuji), and wandered the Nisiki Market.  The week before spring break, we had Japan Days at school.  We were treated to a couple of Japanese performances - Rakugo and Bukaku.  Rakugo is a mixture of story-telling and a comedy act.  It's a one-man performance, and rather than being a stand-up act, the performer is sitting Japanese style with his legs folded underneath him.  A man from Canada, clad in a maple leaf kimono(!) performed (in both English and Japanese) for our students.  He was quite good, and is trying to get an apprenticeship with a Rakugo master in Tokyo. The Bukaku is a Japanese dance typically performed for the imperial family.  Apparently, we were quite fortunate to see this dance, as most people living in Japan never see it performed. The costumes were incredibly elaborate and colorful, and the dances were interesting. I'll try to find some pictures to post. Also during Japan Days, some teachers - and all administrators - dressed in traditional Japanese clothing.  Here's Jon in a kimono - not a bad look!

Click here for more photos.

√ Japanese Police Clearances

We got our Japanese police clearances this week. Feels good to tick those off the list! Still waiting on the document from Latvia. Margaret called the Latvian embassy in Ottawa this week to see if it had arrived. We were hoping that it had since the diplomatic pouch had just come in from Riga, but no such luck. Apparently more mail is coming next week, so our fingers are crossed. Thanks for calling, Margaret!

Spring Break = Spring Cleaning

We've decided to use our spring break as a time for spring cleaning. We're cleaning up all our random blogs and web sites that we never use and are going to start posting everything under this blog. So, this is now going to become a random Schatzky blog, rather than an adoption-specific blog. We're better random, anyway. 

I've started by organizing some pictures of our apartment. For those of you who haven't seen pictures of our place, click here. I like seeing the progression of moving into a place and making it home. Next, I'll post some pictures of the Japan we've seen so far.

Nothing new to report on the adoption front. We should be able to pick up our Japanese police clearances this week. No word from Latvia.

One and 1/2 documents to go!

We're down to one (Jon's police clearance from Latvia) and 1/2 (our Japanese police clearances) documents before our home study is complete. We went to the Hyogo Prefectural Police Headquarters today and were fingerprinted by a slick electronic machine (so modern and so Japanese - no sticky black ink pads there!). We were told that our police clearance certificates will be ready between March 24-28.  I call that '1/2' of a document because I know it's actually in the works. As opposed to the Latvian police clearance... we have no idea what, if anything, is happening with that document. Jon emailed the Latvian embassy to check on the status of his report, and the embassy told him that they have no way of tracking its status. So, we can only hope that it's really in the works. By our count, it's still a full outstanding document. Come on, Latvia!

We're still no further with our decision in regards to a sibling group or one child.  Jon wants to adopt two. And while I love the idea of siblings, I'm looking at the practicality of it all. Are we ready for two kids? Can we adequately meet the needs of two kids who come to us at the same time? The more we read about adopting toddlers who haven't had the best beginning in life, the more we recognize the importance of one of us establishing ourselves as the primary caregiver. We are supposed to put off child care and any other form of 'institutional life' for as long as possible. I will be the one to stay home with our child(ren) for as long as we can afford, while Jon will continue working. That means a great deal of the adjustment period, with all of the bonding and attachment techniques we've learned to use, will take place with one parent - me. Not only am I a bit concerned about my ability to handle this with two kids, I'm also concerned that Jon won't be getting enough of this crucial time with our child(ren). I'm sure this a concern of many families - both bio and adopted - around the world, and everything seems to work out in the end. We've just waited a long time for this, and I want to make sure we make the 'right' decision. Can somebody please tell me what that is?!

Home Visit Completed

We had our home visit this weekend.  Megan McGinn, our social worker, arrived from Hong Kong on Friday afternoon, and we met with her that evening to go over the documents we've collected thus far. We're only waiting on a few more items - the police clearances from Latvia, Lithuania, and Japan - all of which are in the works. Once those documents arrive, she can complete her report. After going over the documents, we went out for dinner at our favorite okonomiyaki restaurant to continue our discussion of all things adoption. We both found Megan easy to talk to and were appreciative of her informal approach to the home visit. We all ordered a beer (much to Jon's relief, as it was a Friday night!) and immediately started chatting away. We were very open about our hopes and reservations regarding adoption, and she answered our questions candidly and honestly.  

On Saturday, we met at our apartment from 9:00 AM until 4:00 PM. Megan took a quick tour of our place, looking for smoke detectors, fire extinguishers, and other safety features. She asked how we plan to baby/toddler-proof our apartment, and what our plans are for sleeping arrangements. Do we plan to use a 'family bed' where all of us sleep together? Will we sleep in our child's room at first and gradually decrease the amount of time we are in his room each night? Or will we just go 'cold turkey' and put him in the room alone on the first night home? She wasn't expecting an answer, but just wanted us to start thinking about this. Apparently, sleep is one of the things during the transition period (from the orphanage to the new home) that can cause the most difficulties for newly adoptive families. I think we'll probably start somewhere in the middle by spending time in our child's room until he falls asleep, and then go from there. But it's so hard to say at this point. We'll have to wait and see what our child's needs are and then do what we think is best. One thing I've read is that adoptive parents shouldn't be worried about forming 'bad habits' during the transition period. Apparently, we're supposed to do whatever it takes to make the child feel calm and comfortable in his new surroundings, and then start working on the routines that we feel will be best for us as a family.

We also talked about our adoption preferences  in regards to gender and number. We're still open in regards to gender, but we can't seem to decide whether we want to adopt a sibling group or one child. If we want to adopt a sibling group, we need to be open to an age range of 8 months - 3 years, unless we choose to wait for twins that are between 8-18 months. We love the idea of siblings, but have reservations when it comes to adopting an 'older' child. Will we be able to give this child what he needs in order to make up for time/opportunities lost? Will we be able to help him overcome any negative or abusive experiences he's already endured in his short life? And what about the challenges of suddenly having two kids, regardless of age or issues, as first-time parents? Luckily, we have a bit more time to think about this, but we'll need to let Megan know by the time our other documents arrive so that she can write up her report.

We discussed many other topics with Megan, some of which I'll reflect on later.  Right now, I think I need an adoption break!

If you're wondering what okonomiyaki is, here's a picture. Basically, it's a cabbage and noodle pancake, filled with shrimp or squid or other ingredients of your choice, smothered in mayonnaise and topped with fish flakes. It sounds a bit strange, but it's quite good! Especially with a cold Asahi on a Friday night...

Moving Along...

We finally finished our autobiographies (23 pages each by the time we answered all the questions!), notarized some of our documents (for a mere $500!), and have scheduled our home visit for the weekend of March 1st. Our social worker will come from Hong Kong and meet with us on Friday afternoon and most of Saturday. After she writes up her report, we will submit a copy to the US Citizenship & Immigration Services and to our adoption agency, along with all the other documents that make up our dossier. Once the USCIS approves us for adoption, and our agency translates our dossier into Russian, the wait will begin.  

Lost in Translation

We're finding that some documents are easier to come by than others...and some of those others are virtually impossible to get our hands on. For some, all we've had to do is make a quick phone call or send a brief email explaining what we need and why we need it, and voilá! This week, however, that good fortune seemed to run out. For anyone who's seen the movie Lost in Translation with Bill Murray and Scarlett Johansson, you'll know what I mean when I say that that sums up our experience this week. I'm not sure what we were thinking going after all the documents from the US, Canada, Lithuania, Latvia, and Peru first and leaving the documents from Japan for last. Actually, I do know what we were thinking - since we no longer live in any of those other places, all of this hunting and gathering of documents from a distance would surely take a lot of time and careful negotiations. And since we're here in Japan, and can visit the necessary offices in person, those documents, certainly, will be much easier to obtain. Apparently, that's where we went wrong. The documents from outside Japan are starting to trickle in at a steady pace, and those that are here in Japan, well, they're going to remain lost in translation for a while longer it seems. Bill Murray's character Bob says, "It gets a whole lot more complicated when you have kids." Is this what he meant?!  

  

Chasing Paper

We were officially approved for FTIA's Russia program earlier this week. Since then, we have been trying to gather documents from six countries - Lithuania, Latvia, Peru, Japan, the US, and Canada. Needless to say, it has been interesting. We need birth certificates, marriage licenses, police clearances, you name it! Most of these documents need to be notarized, apostilled, and authenticated before being sent to FTIA for our dossier. Luckily, everyone we've contacted so far - our case worker in the US, our social worker in Hong Kong, and government employees from all the countries mentioned above - have been more than helpful. Hopefully, it won't take us too long to gather all the necessary documents and complete our home study. Our goal is to have this part of the process completed by March 21.

Year of the RAT!

2008 is the year of the RAT - the year of our Russian Adoption Tale!

Yes, we're adopting! We have decided to adopt a child (or a sibling group of two) from Russia, and this blog will be a record of that experience. We are at the very beginning of the process, and realize we have a ways to go before we become a family of three...or four.

We have just sent in our application to Families Thru International Adoption (FTIA), an international adoption agency located in Evansville, Indiana. We chose this agency based on its successful program in Russia and the fact that it comes highly recommended from others who have adopted with FTIA in the past. Oh yeah, and it was one of the few agencies willing to work with expatriate couples of dual nationality!

Why Russia? After researching different countries that are currently placing children with adoptive families from abroad, Russia has everything we are looking for - a relatively short waiting time (we hope to be placed with a child before Christmas 2008), a long history of international adoptions, and young children who will blend into our family with ease.

The process includes the following steps: (1) completing a home study and submitting our dossier, (2) receiving a referral or an invitation to travel, (3) traveling to Russia to meet our potential child, (4) accepting a referral, (5) waiting for a court date, and (6) returning to Russia to bring our child home. Step 1 will most likely take the longest, as it requires gathering and authenticating several documents, meeting with a social worker, and relying on others to pass along our paperwork in a timely manner. After our dossier is submitted, we should receive a referral or an invitation to travel within 2-5 months. Since we haven't specified a gender, our wait could be shorter. Apparently, many families have received referrals for a boy in less than two months. After our first trip to Russia, we will return to Japan to wait for our court date. This tends to be about 2-3 months after the first trip. On the short end, we could be looking at 6 months to completion. However, we realize it will probably take closer to 9 months to complete the adoption.

We'll keep you posted!